Monday, May 30, 2016

Indeed you will marry the wrong person


A very insightful article on marriage for the young. The successful married probably understand this but perhaps could never explain it like the author of this article to the New York Times could.

Our partners are no more self-aware. Naturally, we make a stab at trying to understand them. We visit their families. We look at their photos, we meet their college friends. All this contributes to a sense that we’ve done our homework. We haven’t. Marriage ends up as a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don’t know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully avoided investigating.

Indeed you will marry the wrong person but that is the whole idea: To make it right.

When I was a young man, the Lord gave me Acts 27 which gave me the confidence to marry. It has been metaphorically relevant and useful even if it was too extreme to be real. Very good preparation overall.

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

On Autism: I believe

An old friend and Mothership shared this. Worth all the 15 mins played.


It doesn't show people how to accept the autistic because if it is from the heart then it isn't necessary as you will know what to do. It does give quite a good recognition of autism because people are likely to comes across autistic folks sometime but couldn't place what was amiss about the person. With the label you can learn lots more and discover that it is not a simple condition but presents itself as a spectrum.

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Politics: Doing too little for the disabled.


As always I was in the car when I caught this program over radio yesterday. I am so glad to see it appear on Facebook with the link to the interview.

"Pest" was the word that caught my attention. I quote them.


That is how Aw felt about the ministers. Is it true? I think so because my ever candid former boss had gotten that from them as well. I am not VIP enough to experience this.


But Aw is not giving up, kudos to him! Eventually he or someone will succeed. To me it is a matter of time. Actually the time was yesterday for those who understand this but politically it is not pressing enough, too capital costly to do it now.

The widest gap in the world is in politics. The gap between idealism and realism.

Update: May 22 4:50 pm


Our system is quite good at engaging with situations like this. A true and most important simple enough story that is easy enough to make a TV story out of. If you have Tourette's syndrome, Asperger's Syndrome etc., you are out of luck.

We are much better at demonstrative and copycat love and care than loving from the heart. It is just human nature. Mother Teresa had often observed and spoken about the greatest poverty in the world which she identified to be the poverty of love. But as a policy maker you cannot afford to be idealistic and hence impractical dealing with matters of the heart. You have to be satisfied with the practical and if it is superficial so be it.

Friday, May 20, 2016

Old wallet, New wallet


A thoroughly worn wallet and its replacement. I think the old one is about ten or more years old. I wonder if its replacement would be better. Paid about $23 for it at the Perllini shop in Jurong Point yesterday.

Thursday, May 19, 2016

Second order: Bluetooth earpiece


This is my second SGD 8 stereo bluetooth earpiece. Delighted in came on the 19th and unlike my first order from them, in a box too :-)

Monday, May 16, 2016

Future of Uni education here


If you are willing to give up on the status value of the university degree this is a good thing. Ong Ye Kung assumes people will get to pursue their aspirations under this developing system. That is not going to happen. There will always be a few courses which are highly sought after and will have to be rationed. You can try to open as many places as possible but you can't do that without keeping an eye on demand. Right now too many people want to bake and no that many want to eat the baking. During my sister's time everyone wanted to start a magazine and nearly all of them lost money.

Few people really know what they want and they end up pursuing fads and whatever pay the best.

Looking ahead you can see how primary school education will change as they move away from T-scoring the kids. Don't look from the beginning to see the end but imagine what the starting point is like by starting with the end product.

If this system succeeds we will become less Chinese/Asian as it is merit based and hierarchy destroying. Everyone is to be respected for his area of expertise and it is impossible to compare an apple to an orange except among the same sort of fruit. I welcome this more egalitarian outcome.

Tomorrow everyone will be a graduate in his own way. Everyone will also go beyond that because his or her knowledge and skill set has to be updated and refreshed all the time. I only hope the workplace would be more conducive than stressful. This is keeping things simple but in real life there are other forces that try to pull this in different directions. People still envy each other and have this inherent need to look better than others. The urge to differentiate and rise above others will always be there but it is up to us to socially discourage that and you have to nip it in the bud taking advantage of this wave of change that is coming.

Remembering Jim Murray


Jim Murray would have been celebrating yet another birthday if not for the fact that he had passed away three years ago. I am beginning to fear I might one day forget him hence this post. I got to know him so long ago before the Internet was publicly available. I think that was in the late 80s. He found me on Compuserve and helped me write the user manual for a software (they call it app these days) I developed for Windows.