Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Ong Ye Kung on bringing up children
But occasionally I do scold them even if they don't get it. I repeat the same scoldings and as they grow older they understand it better and they also see how it linked back. I know it works because they told me so. I wasn't so sure years back but felt other options were inferior. No, I do not nag at them, that is being lazy and superficial.
I no longer need to scold them as much as before. That's good. I am waiting for them to grow up enough to be able to scold me. Gotta be very patient here. Before getting there, I know I would have to teach them how to scold people to help and not destroy them. Behind the scene is much much prayer.
If anyone thinks this is not being Asian or Confucian (we are Chinese), my take is Confucius though great is far from complete. Corruption starts where Confucius left off. We need to go beyond him, we draw from the Gospel. God invite us to "scold", more accurately struggle with him. It is in our nature. Remember Jacob fought with Him the night before meeting Esau. Too many examples to mention here.
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